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Male Performer Chat: Party chat etiquette

Created by: cowboylvr

5/20/12 @ 8:38pm (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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Created by: ronnie-uk

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I was just wondering how you think a party chat should work. I was in one with a model who said if we get to a certain level of credits tipped, he would shoot his load. After a lot of us pledged 200+ credits and we were very close to his stated goal, a member says how much to take you private. He abruptly ends the party chat and says we can go to multi-user for 90 cpm to see him shoot. Lesson learned I guess not to trust him. Is this how most party chats work? Or do most models honor their party chats?

I have seen models disappear to pvt here (or to linked sites) quite a few times during Party Chat, and also during the pledge stage of Group Chat. I have to say that I have some sympathy for the models here. A member who is ready for an instant private show can be a better prospect than loads of guys who are slow or reluctant to tip or pledge. If the member is completely at fault for offering to go pvt during a Party Chat then that makes the model rather less at fault for saying "yes" rather than "no".

Offering the party members the chance of multi seems better than going pvt 1-to-1. The voyeur option should still be available. However, I agree that multi at 90 cpm sounds a bit excessive and doesn't reflect well on the model in this case.

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...No it isn't how most party chats work and they shouldn't be that way. The member was wrong to make the offer to the model and the model was wrong to accept the offer. You would be well advised to avoid that model in the future.

It happens so frequently that I no longer tip during the show. I tip at the end of the show. What the model did in the show determines the size of the tip.

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I have seen models disappear to pvt here (or to linked sites) quite a few times during Party Chat, and also during the pledge stage of Group Chat. I have to say that I have some sympathy for the models here. A member who is ready for an instant private show can be a better prospect than loads of guys who are slow or reluctant to tip or pledge. If the member is completely at fault for offering to go pvt during a Party Chat then that makes the model rather less at fault for saying "yes" rather than "no".

Offering the party members the chance of multi seems better than going pvt 1-to-1. The voyeur option should still be available. However, I agree that multi at 90 cpm sounds a bit excessive and doesn't reflect well on the model in this case.

...ronnie, I must disagree with you on this one. It was stated that a lot of us "pledged",200 credits. I believe he meant tipped as it was a party show, and were very close to his stated goal. As you well know party tips do not get returned in the situation that occured. If it had been a group chat you would get your 200 credits returned, no harm done. How would you personally have felt had you tipped 200 credits only to have the model go into a 90 credit multi-user and you would have lost your 200 credits. I know that I would not have been very happy, just another reason why I prefer Group Chats over Party chats.

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5/21/12 @ 6:39pm (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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party chats tend to show the ethics, good and bad, of both models and members. There are models who will go out of their way to make things right if something should happen to the party or if someone tips a lot but the goal isn't met. Others seem to always be arguing and complaining about the tips. Members who entice a model into a pvt in the middle of tipping for a party are worse.

Like Phil I prefer group chats. They are safer for both models and members and generally don't create controversy in the rooms. I really don't come here because I'm looking for drama.

I generally try to only give tips in party chats where I like the model enough that I'm ok with it being just a tip if nothing happens. That way I don't leave upset.

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Created by: ronnie-uk

5/21/12 @ 8:05pm (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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...ronnie, I must disagree with you on this one. It was stated that a lot of us "pledged",200 credits. I believe he meant tipped as it was a party show, and were very close to his stated goal. As you well know party tips do not get returned in the situation that occured. If it had been a group chat you would get your 200 credits returned, no harm done. How would you personally have felt had you tipped 200 credits only to have the model go into a 90 credit multi-user and you would have lost your 200 credits. I know that I would not have been very happy, just another reason why I prefer Group Chats over Party chats.

Phil - I'm wondering if we each read the OP differently. Cowboylvr stated: "After a lot of us pledged 200+ credits..."

I assumed this was a total for the cum show stage, made up of lots of 5, 10 and 25 tips. If it is lots of guys each giving 200 or more, then we are talking about 1,000 or 1,200 already tipped and a target even higher for a cum show in Party Chat. I agree that this would make the model's agreement to go pvt/multi much less defensible (and also very unusual and surprising).

I think we all agree that with a target of 1,400 or 1,600 for a cum show it would be much better for the performer to do Group Chat.

I generally try to only give tips in party chats where I like the model enough that I'm ok with it being just a tip if nothing happens. That way I don't leave upset.

Wonderboi - me too! Good advice :thumbsup

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Created by: phil_usa

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...I just can't imagine a model who could charge 90CPM for a multi-user show agreeing to do a party chat cum show for being close to his goal at 200+ credits.

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Created by: cowboylvr

5/21/12 @ 11:25pm (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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Just to clarify, it was a party chat and I should have said I, as well as others, spent credits for the party chat, not pledged. My mistake on the wording. And trust me, being 250 credits shy of making his goal, I was shocked when he went multi-user. People were pledging so it was not like he would have not met his goal.

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5/22/12 @ 12:03am (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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People were pledging

Just to clarify, people were tipping*

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Party chat just isn't designed for etiquette. It's an oxymoron. It's more like party chat survival. That's why we were given group chat. It's for the greater good. :winkwink

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Created by: jonfromuk

5/22/12 @ 11:53am (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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Party Chat, Group Chat, Private Chat - I don't think it should matter which is used as long as the model is honest and delivers on any promises.

Whether this works or not is very dependent on the individual model. I've been in a Party Chat where the model had already received a lot of tips, and said he would cum for another 250. He only got 100 but decided to cum anyway, which I thought was a very nice gesture.

Another model I've been with does a count down (as do the members) so that everyone knows if the target tips has been reached. The same model had delivered more mundane displays - hard cock, ass, feet - all the usual stuff, and had reasonably delivered against the tips, when a member asked if he would go Pvt. To his credit, the model asked those that had tipped if he could end the Party session, and only did so when everyone agreed.

The downside is that during a Party Chat where a model had been edging for probably 30 minutes, I offered him 500 credit tip to cum. He agreed but took so long that the Party Chat finished. He then told me he would cum in Private - which like an idiot I agreed to, and he took another 600 credits off me (10 minutes) and still didn't cum. In the end, I decided to cut my losses and spend my credits elsewhere.

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Created by: ronnie-uk

5/22/12 @ 1:34pm (EDT) | UTC - 4:00
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Interesting post, Jon.

It would be good to include points here in Phil's topic: Party Chat or Group Chat...Which Do You Prefer?

http://www.flirt4free.com/forums/threads.php?forum_id=5&thread_id=12805&num_posts=62

I don't know if you want to re-post there. The OP here might want to re-post about his experience, with some clearer details (eg the model requested 1,500 for a cum show in Party Chat. When we had tipped 1,250 one member asked to take him pvt. The model then ended the party and started multi at 90 cpm).

I suggest this because I think there are interesting follow-on points to discuss in Phil's topic (and not here) like: if a model suggests a big target in Party Chat, should the potential tippers ask him to do Group Chat instead? Should they say they will only contribute to Group Chat?

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Created by: male4622

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Yes, this was an inappropriate move by the model. He should not have ended the party chat early. He should have told the customer to wait until it was over.

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